Tony Robbins, who named by Harvard Business press for top 200 business gurus, represented by American Express for top 6 business leaders, and honored by Accenture for top 50 Business Intellectual in the world, wrote Awaken the giant which primarily focused on the psychological blueprint that anybody can follow to transform his life.
Simple Short Summary: Everyone wishes to make a difference because he knows he has talent and unlimited potential. In Awaken the giant within, Robbin acts as your coach, sharing his ideas, experiences, and examples to awaken your inner potential, and to do that, Robbin urges you to become the master of your belief, body, emotion, finance, and relationship.
Here are the three lessons I learn from Awaken the Giant Within:
- Practice using rich words to build character and influence others
- Creating rules of life for taking control and happiness
- Use pain pleasure principle for behavior change
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Awaken the Giant Within Summary
Practice using rich words to build character and influence others
Language is crucial as it shapes how you think, feel and act, and just by changing the words and labels you put on your emotion you can completely change the way you feel.
Robbin defines this as Transformational Vocabulary because with words you can describe life events like victories and failures, joyful and unpleased moments. It is also crucial to watch your language, so you become aware of words you use in different life’s events.
Tony urges you to use rich vocabulary to reinforce positive emotions and diminish negatives ones and inspire others since words affect how you interpret events around you and generate an immediate biochemical effect. Therefore, choosing the right words to describe positive emotions can intensity them.
With rich vocabulary you will have collection of words to describe your experience, for instance rather than saying sunbathing makes you feel happy, you could say, ‘I’m in complete bliss.’, or instead of yelling at your car, ‘This piece of junk is annoying the crap out of me!’ which is just break down, you could say ‘Well, that is a bit unfortunate.‘
Creating rules of life for taking control and happiness
What is rule? As per the dictionary, a rule is an official statement that tells you what you allow to do or not in a particular situation.
Rules set the quality of decision-making. It also controls your life and defines your personality, and when your values align with the guiding principle, you gain access to inner peace. Making good life’s rules make you happy, healthy, and prosperous.
When you rely your happiness on someone else, it makes you feel miserable, which will only produce pain. Remember, you can’t control others hence you need to fix your guiding principle, so it depends on you.
Imagine, you make a rule to keep connecting with friends once a week, however, this is your rule and your friends may have their own rules, for instance, one of your friends thinks it is better to keep in touch with other friends once in a month.
This creates conflict and influences your happiness, and you may even think that your best friend is a bad friend because your friend does not make a call to you. Hence, your rules should be based on you and your personal goals rather than others’ expectations.
Once you recreate your rules, you have to inform others. When others know what is crucial for you, then they will help you to meet those needs. Communicating your rules with others is crucial because it dilutes the conflict that may occur.
So, in our friend’s example, when you inform your friends about your rules then she may tell you about hers, which helps two of you to find a solution to your problems.
Use pain pleasure principle for behavior change
The pain-pleasure principle, developed by Sigmund Freud, suggests that people make choices to decrease pain and increase pleasure. This principle is the core of decision-making because your actions, beliefs, decisions, and values fabricate upon it.
It is the foundation of who you are due to how you interpret past experiences with pain and pleasure. This principle suggests that while you seek pleasure, you also work to avoid pain.
You can motivate and demotivate others once you learn the pain-pleasure principle. The intensity of motivation influences each decision of an individual, and it helps him achieving the goals and objectives he sets for his life. The level of pain or pleasure will become your driving force in decision-making. Thus, the pain-pleasure principle influences your behavior.
You can even use this principle to break bad habits and create new ones. For this, you have to pair bad habits with pain and good ones with pleasure. When you remove your bad habits, you have to fill the void with better new habits.
Temptation Bundling Technique:
To create a new habit, you can also use a technique called temptation bundling. In temptation bundling, you link an action you want to do with the action you need to do.
Ronan Byrne, electrical engineering, enjoyed watching Netflix, but he knew that he should exercise more often than he actually did. Putting his engineering skills into practice, he developed a system that connected his stationary bike with his laptop and television.
For this system he even wrote a computer program that allowed Netflix to run, only if he was cycling at a certain speed. If he slowed down for too long, the show he was watching would be pause until he started pedaling again.
To make his habit more attractive to perform, he employed the temptation-bundling technique. In his case, he tied watching Netflix (the thing he liked to do) with pedaling his stationary bike ( the thing he needed to do).
Favorite Quote from Awaken the Giant Within:
All I need is in me now! – Anthony Robbins
There is no real success without emotional success. – Anthony Robbins
Success has no value if you cannot share it. – Anthony Robbins
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